To change the maximum allowed backlog by your system (*nix machines only), first you need to find the variable for this limit:

sudo sysctl -a | grep somaxconn

On ubuntu boxes, it returns net.core.somaxconn (you need to look for the 'somaxconn' variable, the full name will vary across different systems).

Update this to a large number as follows:

sudo sysctl -w net.core.somaxconn=1024

This will work straight away. no restart required.